Death really puts things into perspective. It has a way of
helping us realise what is really important in life.
Grief affects everyone in different ways. It is easy to
underestimate how much someone is affected just because they appear to be okay
on the surface. Some people are better at getting on with it and
compartmentalising, whereas others need more time. There is no right or wrong
way, it is not a healing process you can expect to happen overnight, so take
small steps and adopt daily a routine that helps bring peace of mind.
In the time following the death of a loved one, it is
important to accept and process the loss. It is likely that you will be feeling
many different emotions, one of which may be loneliness. You may also feel that
no one understands what you are going through. Recognising and accepting how
you are feeling, without allowing your feelings to stop you from interacting
with the world is important.
Be mindful to reach out to those around you, family and
friends may be feeling the same way, struggling just as you are. A conversation
can mean the world to someone during a difficult time and starting a dialogue
is a healthy way to process feelings.
Support groups or local community events can offer support
and guidance, they can be a positive space to help process our experience.
Online communities are also available to reach out to such as Grief Share,
an online community aimed at supporting others going through similar
Keeping busy doesn’t mean you are trying to forget your loved
one. It is a healthy way of interacting with the world and reaching out to
people for support.
A hobby can often be a welcome distraction from the
whirlwind of emotions that follows bereavement.
Speaking to a stranger can sometimes be easier than talking
to close family and friends, this can make it easier to share difficult
emotions, getting feelings off our chest.
It is important to remember to look after yourself and doing
simple daily tasks can help you feel like you are moving forward and healing,
even if they are only small things. Things like
●Having a good sleep schedule
●Regular exercise (even small amounts)
●Sharing your thoughts and feelings with others
●Allowing yourself to get upset sometimes
●Seek the help of a therapist if you need it
Bereavement is one of the most difficult things a person can
go through in life. Most people will experience it at some point, being
prepared and understanding the emotions you may face can be crucial to helping
you heal. Learning healthy coping mechanisms and behaviours during this time
can help to lighten the burden somewhat, and may help to meet new people and
For a range of bereavement support from experts in the
funeral industry, we are here to help. We are based in the Wakefield, Barnsley
and the Pontefract areas and have a wealth of experience supporting families
and people who have lost loved ones. With 24 hour support, rely
for help and guidance whenever you need it.