A wake is a time to celebrate the life of the person who has passed on. In some cultures, it’s the main farewell, but for others, it’s a calmer memorial time that you can spend with friends and family after the funeral.
Wakes are usually rather calm and more informal than a funeral. Usually, it’s a homier atmosphere, with food and drink. This is a time to reminisce about the loved one who has gone before and to share stories and good times that were had with them. If you would like to have a wake for the deceased, it’s usually simpler to plan than a funeral.
Here are some important things to consider when planning a wake.
Choose a Location
Some people host the wake in their home, but you can also select anywhere that will work for a group of people. You may choose a church, local hall, a social club, golf club, hotel, or even a restaurant or pub.
Include Food
You’ll need to be sure there is enough food for everyone. If you are holding the wake at another location, see if they provide food. A restaurant or pub will obviously have food and drink available, and you may wish to pre-pay for a few platters to be served, then let everyone order as they please.
Invite People
This can be a somewhat informal invitation, particularly if you only want to have a small group attending. Be sure to give directions to the location for anyone who has travelled to attend. You should also give time and any special information, such as activities that may be offered, special clothing, etc.
Arrange for Entertainment
The entertainment at a wake may be quite simple, but it is common to include memories of that special someone. For example, you may put together a slideshow that is shown on a wall or a large screen. Pair it with some of the deceased’s favourite music for more impact.
You may also include anything that fits the person’s personality. For example, a child who loved superheroes may be honoured by guests wearing superhero shirts and their favourite Marvel movie playing.
Feel free to tailor the event to fit your needs, as well as to give space for talking and grieving. This is a time to comfort one another and remember the good times. A wake can be a lighter end to a very sad and heavy day. While it won’t necessarily be “fun,” it can give family and friends a chance to talk with others who are going through the same emotions.
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