If you’ve been tasked with writing a eulogy for a loved one but aren’t sure where to start, don’t panic. With the following tips on eulogy writing and delivery, you’ll find yourself capable of giving your dearly departed the profound and memorable send-off that they deserve.
1. Keep it Short and Sweet
No one enjoys a speech or tribute that runs on too long, especially when the subject matter will most likely be upsetting to the audience. When it comes to eulogies, try and keep your speech short and sweet. It’s always better to opt for fewer words with more power behind them. Remember that people will only really remember a sentence or two of what you say, so choose your words wisely and be precise.
2. Everyone Loves a Good Story
It is often the case that the eulogies that people remember most are the ones that involve a good story. Neurological studies have shown that
storytelling releases oxytocin (the brain chemicals that make you feel good), and fire up our mirror neurons which help us to relate to one another more easily. They are also good for helping to create meaning after losing someone and remembering them fondly. Choose a story that captures the essence of your loved one, and that will uplift anyone who has come to celebrate their life.
3. Celebrate All of Their Unique Qualities & Achievements
At the end of our lives, we all want to be remembered for the things we achieved. Of course, this isn’t all what life is about, but there are nonetheless unique qualities and gifts that we bring to the people in our lives and the world around us that deserve to be celebrated. A eulogy is the perfect time to take a moment to really honour all of the good that your loved one brought into the lives of others during their time on Earth. Here are some questions to help you think about what you’d like to share in your eulogy:
● What made them unique to your family, friend group or community?
● What were their best qualities, or did they have a special gift?
● What is something they accomplished that really mattered to them, or made a difference?
● Did they have children, get married or have a meaningful career?
● What will they be remembered for the most?
4. Close on a Wise or Inspiring Note
On average, audiences are far more likely to remember the
first and last lines of a speech above anything else in between. With this in mind, close your eulogy with something heartfelt and meaningful. As we’ve already stated, choosing your words wisely is paramount, so make sure that your closing statement has a lot of thought put into it. Examples could include:
● A powerful quote
● Some words of wisdom your loved one shared with you
● Some words that might bring hope and comfort to those grieving
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