what happens to your body after you pass on is an important, personal decision.
Cremation is increasingly becoming the preferred option for many of us, but
there are a great deal of misconceptions surrounding the process. Of 1546 adults surveyed online by YouGov
58% prefer cremation when they pass away, in comparison with 17% of those who
would choose a burial. Of those who favoured cremation, 79% want their ashes to
be scattered and this seems to be an increasingly popular option. YouGov also
stated that there was a strong shift in preference towards cremation as people
get older. While 42% of 18 to 24-year-olds wish to be cremated, this figure
rises to 71% among the over-65’s.
With this in
mind, what arrangements you decide for yourself or a loved one after you pass
away is obviously a decision that
shouldn’t be taken lightly, and in order to help you navigate these options –
whether you’re life planning or have recently lost a loved one – this blog will
help you explore the practical and personal benefits of cremation. It will also
offer advice to those struggling to accept a loved one’s decision to be
cremated as well as discussing the religious, financial and personal reasons
There are a
myriad of reasons for an individual to prefer cremation over burial. Firstly,
we’ll address the more practical elements including cost and flexibility, as
well as spiritual or environmental factors. With this in mind, it’s no wonder
that cremation rates have surpassed those of burial for the first time ever.
difficult to even contemplate financial matters following a loss, but
unfortunately, cost is an important matter that needs to be addressed. Even if
your loved one set aside money in preparation for a funeral, the bills add up
quickly during the planning and organisation of a funeral. In the United
Kingdom, the average burial costs come in at around roughly £1,750, while the
average cremation costs around £660. That said, there are also various other
associated fees for traditional burials, these are known as disbursement costs.
arrangements are extremely personal. For some people, this stems from an
extension of religious beliefs, and people often put a great deal of thought
into their wishes. It’s important to try to understand the more intimate
reasons a person may choose to have a cremation.
see cremation as a spiritual element of their passing hence the well-known
phrase, ‘ashes to ashes, dust to dust’. A person may also wish for their ashes
to be scattered:
●Into the wind at a location they
●In the ocean.
●At a park or a scenic rural setting.
●In their back garden, close to home.
●Somewhere with special significance,
perhaps the spot where they were married or grew up.
of the spirit passing on is frequently tied with religious beliefs even though
there are many religions which do not advocate cremation. Although there has
been a decline in organised worship in recent years, it’s still a huge part of
many people’s lives, and while some are dedicated to a strict doctrine, others
instead incorporate modern ideas into their faith and this could well include
traditional burial can have a negative impact on the environment for several
reasons, this includes:
●Bodies are frequently embalmed in
●Caskets are not completely
●Cement burial vaults often surround
even eco-friendly caskets.
●Strong embalming chemicals can
ultimately end up polluting water.
●There simply isn’t enough room to
bury the world’s population.
comes from the Earth in life and many people feel compelled to give something
back. Cremation bypasses the burial process and some people actually request
having a tree planted in their honour. For many, it’s just a matter of not
taking up space after passing on.
certainly evidence that cremation is less harmful than burial and it is
definitely less hazardous to the environment in the long term, especially if
you choose a green cremation. Nevertheless, to date, the Environmental
Protection Agency (EPA) hasn’t placed restrictions on the general process, nor
burials, so again, it’s a highly subjective matter.
find solace in being laid to rest, but others find it an unsettling idea.
Claustrophobia is something that many people suffer and can cause someone to
feel frightened about being buried for eternity, especially with visitors
walking over them. Even someone who does not have claustrophobia may feel
overwhelmed by this notion.
it’s completely natural, there are also people who aren’t comfortable with the
decomposing process. Though it’s typically been preserved prior to burial, the
chemicals only delay the process. Ultimately, the body breaks down, and no one
wants to imagine it for themselves or a loved one.
anything else, burial isn’t right for everyone. Some feel very strongly about
their fears or anxieties around it, and as a friend or relative, it’s important
to respect this.
personal objections can be very difficult and regardless of their best efforts,
some loved ones will struggle with the idea of cremation. It’s necessary for
all to show each other compassion and understanding, even amid disagreements.
If you are
organising your own final arrangements, be sure to discuss your plans with
those around you. Whether you have a terminal illness or are planning far
ahead, your family should understand your preference ahead of time. Be ready to
hear out their concerns and answer their questions.
You may need
to offer some members of the family time to understand your decision. They
could be reconciling an issue with their religious or personal beliefs, so
allow time to process. Try to take an honest and empathetic approach during
If there is
an objection to cremation surrounding a recent loss in the family, gather
everyone for a calm discussion. If your loved one has stated a preference for
cremation, there isn’t much room for debate here. Nevertheless, it’s important
to let everyone express their feelings.
familiar with your loved one’s specific reasoning for wanting a cremation, let
those around you know. If you are uncertain, open the subject up for a
civilized chat. Allow yourselves time for understanding, especially for those
struggling most with the idea of cremation.
Many of us
live busy lives and, taking this into consideration, this can sometimes make it
difficult to plan and carry out a traditional burial service. For that reason,
cremation offers portability and much more flexibility in the way that a
memorial service is a little different. In contrast to a traditional burial,
cremation can be performed much quicker, and the memorial service can be held
at any time, as much as many weeks later. For these reasons, many families
choose cremation, while other people hold services to accompany the cremation
A significant part of planning a funeral service
for a loved one is deciding what you are going to do after they have passed on.
There are many benefits to selecting a cremation as your option, but if you are
uncertain that this is the right choice, you may want to discuss this with our
expert team at Normington & Sons to discover more about the services we
offer in Wakefield. Get
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